NLP and Our Instinctive Voice - Part 2

PRIMITIVE MAN

It is worth seeing how our history still influences our behaviour in close relationships. In a primitive Stone Age world, it was more practical for men and women to specialize in various skills and attitudes. There was no point in duplicating effort - the world was a dangerous place, food was not a right, or even guaranteed, and getting lost didn't mean having to buy a map, but risking being killed by animals or your human enemies.

Now the world is very different. Ironically, many of the aspects that made men and women specialists are now working against us, making it harder, not easier to build relationships that meet our needs now and in the future. Survival is now easy. Infant mortality is a small fraction of what it was. Life is a right; now we are only concerned with its quality. We want more, different challenges and other means of satisfaction. To achieve this we need relationships that are not standing knee deep in the mud of primitive demands. Yet in some ways we still wear our Stone Age furs under our smart twentieth-century clothes. They itch, especially in the company of the opposite sex. Somehow we have to deal with the feelings shaped by thousands of years of evolution in one short lifetime.